I get notes all the time from folks with questions about how to use EFT, or MTT, as many are calling it now, or just plain tapping. I’ll refer to it as tapping from now on.
And no, we’re not talking about tap dancing! Gotta have a little fun now and then, yes?
This week someone asked me what to do if you don’t seem to be getting results tapping.
Here are just a few aspects to this question that can help you resolve the dilemma.
A. What is it you don’t like?
First, identify what’s going on that you don’t like. Like, I lost my job, my husband’s having an affair, I feel ugly, I can’t make enough (or any!) money as an enterpreneur.
Those are all what I call umbrella issues that are too broad to tap on and get good results without looking at some details.
B. Where do you feel it?
What I want you to do is duck under the umbrella and pick out the places where you feel ughy. Like, it felt awful to be yelled at when I was fired. I hated myself when I shouted at my kid. I feel so anxious about marketing my business.
C. Name it
Zero down a bit more, and name how you felt – I was so ticked off, I was so ashamed, I felt so humiliated.
D. What’s your body doing?
Now, how did you *know* you felt that way? Did you blush to your hair-roots? Were you clenching your fists, did your heart feel like it was going to blast our of your chest, did you stop breathing? Pin it down so you know some exact symptoms.
E. Rate it
Then, rate how intense those symptoms, or feelings, are, with 0 being the least and 10 the most. WRITE it down, because you’ll be amazed to see your rating after you’ve tapped, and may not even believe you had anything going on at all in the first place!
Now you have solid, identifiable things upon which to tap: even though my heart felt like it was bursting when he yelled at me…I didn’t want to cry so my chest felt tight and I couldn’t breathe….
If you have never tapped before, go to: EFTinEveryHome.com and see what I’m talking about. You get a freebie run-through mini session right there so you can get a taste of tapping.
Tell everyone you know about the site, too – I want to see every last person on the planet have this incredible key to emotional sanity.
If you’re a practitioenr, send your new clients there to check it out before their first session with you – it will save you tremendous time having to explain the points, how it works, etc.
Fa. Then be sure to say you accept yourself. If you can’t say that without your mind balking, tap on even though I can’t accept myself until you can say it and be pleased by saying it. Then continue the original session.
Fb. If you are one of those people who can’t seem to feel, then use the word *think* – what did you think when he yelled at you? What do you think about being a home business owner? Many times that will help get the right words. It helps guys a lot, and people who tend to be more mental or academic.
It’s in the details.
If you don’t know how you feel, look to where your body hurts or has tension. If you don’t know how your body feels, look to memories, what people said to you, what you think about something. Get the details. You’ll be able to get real results using these hints. Get the details. Get the details.
And remember: it’s all energy.
No matter what’s going on, it’s just energy, and you can tap it into being useful, productive and creative even if it *looks* disruptive, limiting and deadly right now. It’s just energy. Choose creativity!
Hope that helps.